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New year resolutions - To 2022

Happy new year everyone! 2021 has been a year full of coping with uncertainties, tragedies, and changes. Looking ahead,  I am hoping 2022 will give us all the much-needed stability and peace of mind, and put an end to this pandemic. These are my resolutions gearing up for 2022:

1. Inculcating a sense of discipline: Generally a very popular new resolution throughout years for many people, I am fairly certain it is one of the hardest ones to follow through on. But the timing for this year makes it even more popular than usual I suspect, because in 2021, we had to do a lot of 'going with the flow' with things beyond our control. The coping mechanisms for this naturally had a lot to do with being flexible and less 'plan-centric'. But in my case at least, this may have gone to the other extreme, which means no emphasis on being organised and having specific targets. Of course, there is some merit to the type-A approach of 'to-do-lists', plans and routines, so I want to bring back some of that and enhance discipline.

2. Don't be afraid to explore big things: As one of my main resolutions last year was to experiment more, which I blogged about here, this is a natural extension. While at it, I realised that it is easy to take the baby steps like watch new series, go to new restaurants,  talk to new people etc., but there are some key aspects where we always tend to stick to tried and tested. Especially when the new move involves a lot of change from what we've been used to and a great deal of commitment meaning some kind of irreversibility in a big way. Fear of change and looming uncertainties plus inertia stops us from making the big moves we've been contemplating for months, even with the changes which we've always been aspiring for. I don't want to hold myself back and learn to take those big steps in 2022 :)

3. Putting jealousy behind: I've blogged about six inner enemies according to Hindu philosophy here. It is really important to avoid the trap of comparison and self-inflicted torture especially when you're contemplating to try big things. This is not a specific resolution because I suffer from incurable jealousy issues or something :P Honestly, I'm usually pretty content with who I am and have it in me to genuinely feel happy for others. I'm just putting it across more as a detox reminder to cleanse myself of distractions in experimenting with different things.

What are your resolutions for 2022? Do share in the comments :)

Related posts:

1. Rounding up 2020; Easing into 2021 - link

2. Aahista chal zindagi - A new year treat - link

3. Happy new year - link

4. Arishadvargas - Six inner enemies - link

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